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TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

How to Tell You're in One and What to do if You Are

WHAT IS IT?

    A toxic relationship is a relationship characterized by behaviors on the part of the toxic partner that are emotionally and, not infrequently, physically damaging to their partner. While a healthy relationship contributes to our self-esteem and emotional energy, a toxic relationship damages self-esteem and drains energy. A healthy relationship involves mutual caring, respect, and compassion, an interest in our partner’s welfare and growth, an ability to share control and decision-making, in short, a shared desire for each other’s happiness. A healthy relationship is a safe relationship, a relationship where we can be ourselves without fear, a place where we feel comfortable and secure. A toxic relationship, on the other hand, is not a safe place. A toxic relationship is characterized by insecurity, self-centeredness, dominance, control. We risk our very being by staying in such a relationship. To say a toxic relationship is dysfunctional is, at best, an understatement.

HOW TO TELL THE SIGNS

CONTROL ISSUES

Your partner is rigid and must have his/her way. You find yourself complying to keep the peace and because it's easier, or you find yourself being manipulated.

SOLUTION

There's no clear solution, there are many different ways to approach a toxic relationship and there are many different circumstances. Start by accessing the situation with your partner, and if thing's don't go well then the best thing to do is to leave, even though it may be hard, in the long run it will be better. You can't change someone that doesn't want to be changed. But if your partner is willing to change, then a few steps you can take: 

1. Work on trust and have trust exercises 

 https://www.loveisrespect.org/content/trust-exercises/

2. Communication Skills and Learning to Open up to One Another 

https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/5-easy-ways-to-communicate-better-in-your-relationships/

3. Support One Another and Work on Your Personal Growth

https://inspiringtips.com/ways-to-support-each-other-in-a-relationship/

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/couples-practice-self-care-together

4. Certain Relationships Require Certain Solutions. Not Every relationship is the Same.